There’s a YouTuber that I watch, and his show is called More to Life. And lately, he’s been showcasing a phenomenon where a lot of women who are considered leftover women in Asian countries believe in Chinese culture. The term is called shengnü.
There’s another name for it in Japan and Korea, and I believe it begins when a woman reaches the age of 27 when she’s not yet married.
The Term
The term is shengnü, which was coined in 2007 by the All-China Women’s Federation, a government organization. The term has been used in state media and online discussions to stigmatize these women.
The Media
The Chinese government has used a media campaign to scare women into giving up their careers and education to marry and have children. The media often portrays single women as lonely, desperate, overqualified, and intimidating.
The Stigma
The stigma of being a “leftover woman” has pressured many women into marriage. However, some women are fighting back by using their economic power to redefine their single status as something to be proud of.
The Marketplace
The rise of singlehood has also led to the creation of “Singles’ Day”, an anti-Valentine’s celebration for single people. Singles’ Day is held on November 11 and has become the world’s biggest annual shopping festival.
And then there’s this whole thing, where culturally, after 27, you know, the goal is for her to meet an upwardly mobile and successful person around her same age and whatever.
But after 27, you know, those people, the primary catch is that the good, the good ones, the, the high-value men, or in the city.
After 27 or 28 or 29, 30, those men are no longer accessible to the leftover women. And so then women must focus on men in the more rural areas and like the countryside and the belief there is that, you know, those men, have fewer options.
Still, they also in are in less of a financial position to actually, you know, take care of and provide for, the woman.
It’s been around, you know, culturally since the beginning of time. However, what’s happening is that a lot of these women in China, Japan, and apparently South Korea as well, when they get to this age, their own men no longer look at them because they’re looking for younger women, which is, you know, understandable.
And the women don’t quite understand their sexual marketplace value at that advanced age. Women over 35 years old still believe they can command the attention of successful, affluent men in their 40’s. Most women have not adjusted their mindset, but there are a growing number of women who can pivot, and find love, happiness, and marriage.
But those women are finding solace in the arms of foreigners, particularly, African American and or Africans. And, there was this one particular family, with a Chinese woman and, she was 29, 28 years old, and she ended up getting married with, you know, a really good-looking tall African dude.
She was tall. He was tall. They had two beautiful, gorgeous-looking girls. And, and, I’ve been watching that, and I’m thinking, wow, this is pretty freaking cool. That, you know, there’s a way around the stigma, for these folks in Japan, China, and South Korea. and it reminded me of my own, marriage with Nghia because she was 39 when we got married.
So, you know, back in Vietnam, you know, people at that age rarely get married. But, you know, for someone like me, she was perfect, and she was the perfect girlfriend in a long-distance relationship. And now she’s a perfect wife.
And, you know, we have a dynamic that works for us. And, you know, it’s it’s good to see that. That I was on the, you know, the beginning, the front part of this new way of how relationships are going around the world. So, I’m really happy about that.
I just wanted to make a quick blog to let men know that, you know, a lot is changing out there in the dating world, in the marriage world.
And, particularly in the past for girls, there are two factions are emerging, and there is definitely, definitely that, sexual tourism aspect, that exists and is not going anywhere. and it’s all the men, all the races all over the world who were visiting these countries, to find women to have a good time with, so that’s there.
But what’s kind of them, coming up, separating from that are the men who, like myself, are in a second phase of life, meaning that they’ve gone through a long-lasting relationship or a long-term relationship or marriage, and it’s ended.
They’re at an age now where you date with a purpose and you’re looking for essentially, you’re looking for someone to spend your last years with so that you’re not alone and you still want to be compatible.
You still want to have fun. You still want to, you know, attack your bucket list. You still want to travel. You still want to, you know, have a good time and smile and laugh. And, so we have a different set of goals when we look at them.
I’m not really interested or concerned with speaking to the under-30 crowd unless you are going through the K-1 visa process. And then I could help you with that. I can help guide this to you that way.
But in terms of, you know, being let’s say like 10 to 15 years away from retirement and you’re getting married, or you’re thinking about getting married and you want to plan for your financial future.
You want to have a good relationship with a good woman, and, you know, you don’t want to do all that kind of fighting stuff that we tend to have to do with American modern women.
I will be out there sourcing good stories and information to bring to you. We can all have a good time and have a good partner to enjoy our good times with. And, I think, you know, we can definitely do this.
I appreciate you.
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