Making the Connection of a Lifetime
Where is Vietnam Located
Viet Nam is located on the Indochina peninsula in Southeast Asia. It has a long land border of 4,550 km, bordering China to the North, Laos and Cambodia to the West, and the Eastern Sea (South China Sea) of the Pacific Ocean to the East.
Vietnam is 8,573.21 miles (13,797.25 km) from the continental United States. The flight time is estimated to be 15.12 hours, assuming an average airplane speed of 567 miles per hour.
Typical Vietnamese Woman for Marriage
Women born and raised in the Southeastern Asian region have many things in common that make them more ideal than Modern Women for marriage. Asian women honor family. This doesn’t require children, but marriage is a goal sought by young women
Asian women also revel in their natural skin of femininity. They have little interest in competing with men. They understand that nature provides each sex with natural abilities.
Yes, women can work many of the jobs that men do and can ascend the corporate ladder equally, but their home is their castle. They have a duty to their home which doesn’t go away once they meet a husband and a provider.
The Odds Are Never In Your Favor
There’s only one surefire way an American man can meet a Vietnamese woman. To meet eligible single Vietnamese women who want a boyfriend or who want to get married, a man has to do one simple thing. To meet eligible, single, marriage-minded Vietnamese women, an American man has to put himself in a place where there are single Vietnamese women.
That’s it. That’s the secret. Unfortunately, I doubt it is the magic bullet you are looking for, but this is God’s truth here. If you are an American man living in the United States it’s going to be more difficult to locate yourself in a place where there are Vietnamese women. You’d have to choose a city where there is a large community of Vietnamese and come up with an excuse to be there.
For an American man visiting or living in Vietnam, this task becomes a little easier. That said, I don’t know how to meet a woman in Vietnam. I’ve never had to do so from a single man’s point of view. I met my future wife through a relative here in the States.
At the time I was working in a community of 36,000 Vietnamese in Little Saigon and my fiance’s niece worked in a K-Pop Gift Shoppe. My future niece had a coworker who also worked at the gift shop and I had quietly dated her colleague for a year before she quit.
I’ve never had a cold introduction to a Vietnamese woman. Each time I got to know a young lady it was because we were in the same environment and had seen each other multiple times before we met. We had probably done the obligatory good morning wave and smiled hundreds of times.
However, what I have found is that most Vietnamese women are, at the very least, friendly. Unless you meet someone with a chip on her shoulder or who thinks she’s God’s gift to men, you’re likely to have a decent first encounter.
What Chance Do You Have of Meeting a Vietnamese Woman
If you visit or stay in Vietnam for any duration, your toughest challenge will be breaking through the gauntlet of friends and family a woman will likely have around her. Just imagine alarm bells going off as soon as you cross the threshold of her personal space.
That said, there will be plenty of opportunities to meet single women in Vietnam. There are over 97 million people in Vietnam and lucky for American men (especially Caucasian American men), foreigners are often more desirable in women’s eyes than the native Vietnamese man. Many Vietnamese women would rather marry a Vietnamese-American man, than a Vietnamese man.
Anyway, I decided to do some research on finding a Vietnamese woman to date because after I’d announced my engagement to Nghia, many of my single male friends asked me how they too could find a Vietnamese woman to date.
At the time I didn’t know what to tell them. I’d already been working in the largest Vietnamese community in the world for over three years. However, my interest in Vietnam made me more familiar with other Southeast Asian countries. With that familiarity came an awareness that many American men were deeply interested in meeting women from other countries like The Philippines, Thailand, and Malaysia.
I have to admit, I’ve had a crush on the Singapore Girls from Singapore Airlines for a long time.
I’d say, the #1 way to meet a woman from Vietnam is to work in a Vietnamese environment and/or be introduced by a mutual friend.
Matchmakers Can Make Me a Match
A friend or a colleague serving as a matchmaker will be your best introduction. However, this requires your friend to be Vietnamese or have a lot of Vietnamese friends. If you don’t hang out in VN circles this is unlikely to produce results.
However, once you’ve made one or more trips to VN you’re likely to develop associations and perhaps even friendships with the locals. I was having dinner with some of Nghia’s friends and coworkers during my first trip to VN. I got up to use the restroom. On the way back a Vietnamese man stopped me and invited me to a banquet room where he was having food and drinks with several others. I have to say that at the time the interruption weirded me out, but Nghia explained that when men offer their food or drink it is a form of friendship building.
Vietnamese love foreigners. Many associate Caucasian foreigners with success. Their friends and relatives will be proud they made such a choice. Typically this includes Europeans, Australians, Brits, and Americans.
Your new local Vietnamese friends will likely want to introduce you to their good-looking single female friends. During each of my four trips to VN at least one of my fiance’s friends asked if I had a single friend back in the States. Essentially, my fiancee was playing matchmaker between my friends and her friends. Many of her friends were cute too. They were either cute and smart, or cute and tall, or cute and running their own business.
International Online Dating Apps and Websites
The second best way to meet a Vietnamese woman is through an international online dating app or website. The closest I’ve come to online dating was using Facebook Messenger to video chat with Nghia. I’ve never signed up for a dating service to specifically locate women from Southeast Asia. I have used dating services in the past but it’s way hit or miss, mostly miss.
Quite frankly, I don’t trust dating services. They are loaded with frauds, catfishers, and scammers. Any hook-up that costs an airline ticket is suspect.
Still, one can occasionally find the diamond in the rough, or a four-leaf clover amongst the weeds. The beauty of online dating is being able to correspond with someone thousands of miles away as if they were right next door. And, if it doesn’t go well, hang up. Chances are, you won’t be stalked by someone who lives 10,000 miles away.
Caveat emptor. Let the buyer beware. Online dating sites contain a treasure trove of professionals too if you know what I mean. These women come at a hefty price. Proceed at your own risk. If you sense any red flags, run!
Unfortunately, I’ve heard horror stories of men who found a wife in Vietnam through a dating site. After they got married the man returned home to begin the immigration process (K1 Visa aka Fiance Visa). For some reason, his wife keeps delaying the process but he still continues sending money. After years and years, the husband learns that his “wife” is already married or has a boyfriend and he’s been supporting their lifestyle with his monthly stipend. Ugh.
The curious thing about international dating sites is that each country seems to have a site dedicated to it. The site uses the country name in its title. Of the chartered members of the Association of Southeast Asian Nations, (ASEAN) over half have dedicated authentic dating sites for local women to meet and marry foreign men.
Association of Southeast Asian Nations (ASEAN):
- Indonesia (dating sites)
- Philippines (dating sites)
- Vietnam (dating sites)
- Thailand (dating sites)
- Myanmar
- Malaysia (dating sites)
- Cambodia (dating sites)
- Laos
- Singapore
- Brunei
Some of the more familiar sites I came across are:
- VietnamCupid, CambodianCupid, MalaysiaCupid (you get the point) – these sites have Southeast Asia on lock and key, so they might be fairly effective at helping you find a mate.
- AsianDating
- Tinder – its reach never ceases to amaze me.
- Badoo
- eHarmony
- Match.com
- OrchardRomance
- InternationalCupid
The In-person Meet-Cute
For daring and confident men, the in-person meet-up can be a story you tell your grandchildren. All it requires is the balls to interrupt a woman who’s minding her own business and the words (i.e. game) to make her curious enough to want to give you her number. You don’t have to be the most charming, handsome or wealthy person on Earth, you just have to be interesting.
The best time to meet a woman in Vietnam is after sunset. Vietnamese women are very particular about avoiding exposure to the sun. During the day it’s blazing hot and everyone does as much as possible to avoid the temperature and direct sunlight.
At night, men, women and families go out to play and be seen. Women do their hair, wear their best outfits, and best footwear to take pictures, have coffee, and meet up with friends. They are relaxed and playful. This is the best time to approach a woman.
Below are some tips to remember to help you meet a Vietnamese woman:
ENGLISH. Vietnamese learn very little English in grade school. Because of this, a woman will be concerned about her ability to speak to and understand you. This might make her shy or reserved. It helps if you know some words and phrases in Vietnamese. She will appreciate your efforts.
BE BOLD. Vietnamese men are bold, and in some ways fearless when it comes to women. You must be the same. You can be direct in asking her name, age and for her phone number or IG. Just don’t expect her to be direct. Part of the Viet courtship is for women to play hard to get or seem uninterested.
PREPARE. Download several apps on your phone. You should have Instagram, Facebook, Zalo, WeChat, Viber, Zalo, and Whatsapp.
THE APPROACH. Some say it is a bad look if you approach a woman who is with her friends and family. I say this is the best time to approach. This shows her you are bold and fearless. It is a gesture that indicates you will be able to protect her and take care of her. Her friends will be jealous that you chose her. This is the perfect time. However, make sure she is single.
YOUR DUTY. You must find a good candidate, be bold in your approach, and have a brief but meaningful interaction. Feel free to ask her age, profession, and where she’s from. These topics are not taboo like in the U.S. Compliment her style, especially her hair and skin. Women love to be told that their skin looks “bright”. Say something that indicates that meeting her was the best thing that has happened to you in Vietnam. Offer to exchange information. Once you do, touch her hand gently, bow slightly, and go. Don’t linger.
What are Suitable Places to Meet Vietnamese Women
After dark you can meet women anywhere. Do not restrict yourself to only coffee shops, nightclubs, parks, or special tourist streets. You can meet women anywhere and at any time. You should always be respectful, courteous, friendly, and direct.
If you are in Vietnam for business it’s also possible to meet a professional woman too. As long as you are respectful of the workplace and don’t shit where you eat, you should be fine. Make plans after work by offering to buy her a drink to celebrate the conclusion of business.
I would not try to approach a woman on public transportation. Buses in Vietnam are noisy and not private. Once the foreigner starts talking to a woman all eyes will be on her. Do not embarrass her by drawing attention to her.
In Conclusion
In conclusion, it is possible to meet and marry a woman from Vietnam (or any Southeast Asian country). It will take some effort on your part and you should do your due diligence to learn about and understand the culture and customs. Culture is very important to Vietnamese women and you should be respectful at all times.
Whether you start your journey from the U.S. using online dating or you travel to Vietnam for face-to-face courtship, know that the dating ritual is very different. The woman will dictate the dating process, especially in the beginning.
Remember, Vietnam is not a democracy and you don’t have the rights you have here in America. It is, however, an emerging second-world nation and is poised to become more industrialized than Cuba, North Korea, or perhaps even China. However, the hierarchical nature of the government spills over to relationships too and you will be expected to care for and protect your family by any means necessary.