Hello, everyone. My name is Angelo, and I am a passport brother who brought his fiancée from Vietnam to the United States until she gets her permanent residency or green card. After that, we plan to move back to Southeast Asia. I talk about all things related to the Passport Brothers, including finances, immigration, travel, and retirement. You can find lots of information on my blog or YouTube channel.
Today, I wanted to share a bit of my story about why I made the decision to bring my fiancée from Vietnam to the United States. Many passport brothers and people in general advise against bringing your girlfriend or fiancée to the United States. And for good reason.
The sisterhood has made it clear what their intentions are—they often try to poison the minds of women who come to the United States from other countries, especially those who accept more traditional roles in the household and relationships.
These women usually reject modern phases of feminism and want nothing to do with it. The sisterhood is a collective mindset, and if you don’t align with their views, they will come down on you.
Given this, I had two choices. I could either keep things as they were or start the visa process to bring her to the United States. We decided on the latter so we could work on things here and prepare for the next phase of our life together back in Southeast Asia. I’m aware of all the pitfalls, horror stories, and cautionary tales, but to be honest, I got tired of being alone.
I was divorced for five years before I met my current wife, Mia. During those years, I focused on spending time with my children and managing them, trying to keep things peaceful and steady.
On the days I didn’t have my kids, I went out on dates, but I wasn’t ready for a new relationship. I’m glad I wasn’t, because if I had been, I might have settled for someone who wasn’t right for me. Dating was crazy—people put on a good front at first, but the red flags started popping up after a while.
I decided to be alone and resigned myself to living my life as a retired man without a wife or spouse. Then, I met a young Vietnamese lady where I worked, and we dated for a year. That relationship opened my eyes to another side of relationships and showed me my perspective was limited.
After that relationship ended, I realized I wanted to have a partner in my later years. I started actively looking for a relationship again, and that’s when Mia and I connected. We initially planned to do the long-distance thing, but as we got more infatuated with each other, I went out to Vietnam for a visit. We had a great time, and I decided to make this thing real.
We had to deal with the idea of her staying in Vietnam while I stayed in the United States, seeing each other only a few times a year. She had a good career and plans to get her certification in English and transfer to Europe. So, the idea of long-distance was a real challenge.
As time went on, life got in the way, and the time between visits increased. We had to figure out if a long-distance relationship with just a few visits a year was what we wanted. It wasn’t. So, we started the K-1 visa process to bring her to the United States. Many people thought I was crazy for doing this, and maybe it is a crazy move.
But you have to look at your foundation and process to combat all the negative influences. Our antidote to this poison is communication. We talk about everything and regularly have conversations about the challenges she faces in the United States.
We share everything, embrace our routine, and use it as a forcefield to keep negativity out of our lives.
Waking up together, going to bed together, cooking, eating, laughing, and doing everything together helps us stay strong against outside influences. This makes more sense than trying to maintain a long-distance relationship with only occasional visits.
That’s why I brought my fiancée to the United States instead of having a relationship with her in Vietnam. Now we’re married and have our green card interview scheduled later this month.
If my story inspired you or you think it could help a friend, please leave a comment and subscribe. I’ll be making more videos to share my journey with you, so if you’re a passport brother like me who wants to bring his fiancée to the United States temporarily, you’ll know exactly what to do. Thanks again, and I’ll see you next time. Peace out.
2 responses to “Don’t Bring Your Foreign Fiancée to the United States”
I understand your points, Angelo. I’m a first time visitor here and agree with many of your points. However, I think most Passport Bros are worried about the risks of marriage after the 5 to 7 years mark. Take a look at CGA’s Marriage Wheel for more clarity. It helps that your wife is educated with a good career. I think it’s a bigger risk to bring a less educated, more impoverished girl to the United States. Education and family upbringing are extremely important.
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Some would say that it is less of a risk to being an impoverished woman from her native country to the US because she may feel eternally in debt to you for the change. Some might argue that a smart(er) more educated woman is more prone to developing feminist ways.
After God, or whomever your hire power is, a man has to be his wife’s primary teacher, helping her to understand not just the world, but her role in it as a woman, a wife, a mother, and a citizen. If any woman resists these things, she is likely not marriage material.
The truth is, the mindset of the modern feminist woman is pervasive and it’s difficult to escape it, even in another country. Bros must understand that the vetting process never ends, because as women adapt to a new lifestyle, they are also conditioned by that life style.