Based on trends and discussions from 2019 to the present, here are ten common complaints women have about men in the context of modern dating and the ten responses men generally have to those complaints.
Some say the problem between men and women persists because as men continue to explain their preferences, women continue to belittle and shame them. Why? Is it because women aren’t offering or capable of producing men’s desired preferences?
1. Lack of Communication:
Many women feel that men often need to communicate more clearly and consistently, leading to confusion and misunderstandings.
Men often cite ambiguity in women’s words as the primary problem. What they say is frequently not what they want. Also, men complain that women frequently expect men to read their minds and know what they’re thinking.
When this happens, both parties are lost and will not know how to express themselves to maintain consistent communication.
2. Emotional Unavailability:
Women frequently express frustration with men who seem unable or unwilling to express their emotions or be vulnerable.
Some men feel societal pressure to be stoic and may struggle with vulnerability, fearing judgment or rejection. Men often report that upon their display of emotion, women tend to lose interest and respect for them.
In fact, anecdotal evidence on social media indicates that many women prefer men never to show emotion as it is an “ick” or a turn-off.
3. Ghosting:
The practice of abruptly cutting off all communication without explanation has been a significant complaint.
Men often ghost due to their lack of interest or perceived lack of interest on the woman’s part. Avoidance of confrontation is paramount as it could lead to extreme circumstances that put men at a disadvantage.
Men will ghost a woman that they are not interested in if they believe the woman will act out in an extreme manner upon rejection.
On the other hand, men will ghost a woman with extreme prejudice if they believe that woman has used them for an expensive dinner or have been friend-zones.
4. Lack of Effort:
Some women feel that men do not make enough effort to plan dates, show interest, or maintain the relationship.
Now unsure of what is expected or accepted, men feel that mutual effort in approaching and dating should be equal, as women desire to be equal to men. Consequently, this desire for equality should also extend to dating, should it not?
A man’s attempt to make the first move with a woman makes him the target of disdain, anger, or accusations of sexual assault. In many men’s eyes, women have made it clear that they do not want men to approach them – but the reality is that women don’t want to be approached by men they don’t feel attracted to.
But how is the man supposed to know unless he first approaches her? As a result, men now wait for clear and unmistakable evidence that a woman is interested before they approach. Without that evidence, there is doubt, and men don’t swim in doubtful waters. They get out of the pool.
5. Inconsistent Behavior:
Fluctuating interest and effort levels can lead to insecurity and confusion.
Men are made; women are born. Men may cite uncertainty about their feelings, fluctuating personal circumstances, or testing compatibility as reasons for inconsistent behavior. They do this while in the middle of working to become the person they dream of being.
Most men are careful to take note of the qualities of a woman that complement their quest to buy a home, have a successful career, and become a father. When a woman displays behavior that contradicts her statements of being a supportive woman, the man backs off to evaluate the situation.
6. Commitment Issues:
Many women report that men are often reluctant to commit to a relationship or take it to the next level.
Men’s past relationship traumas cause them to fear losing independence. Most men desire the stability of having a woman at home, a wife, or a girlfriend. However, suppose the woman has issues that contravene his efforts to find success in all areas of his life. In that case, he’s likely to feel unprepared for a serious commitment.
7. Dishonesty:
Complaints about men not being truthful about their intentions, relationship status, or feelings are shared.
Men might lie to avoid hurting someone’s feelings when they want to keep their options open. Often, men lie because the backlash of telling the truth may lead to more profound consequences. Generally speaking, men lack confidence in a woman’s ability to manage her emotions or feelings of rejection.
8. Focus on Physical Appearance:
Women often feel that men place too much emphasis on looks rather than personality or compatibility.
Some men may claim biological or cultural conditioning to prioritize looks, or may feel physical attraction is a prerequisite for deeper connection. You cannot change what you are attracted to, but you can make smarter decisions about who you decide to be with.
Men, being visual creatures, are attracted to attractive women. What keeps men around, however, is the character and support of that woman and the respect she shows him.
Men also think logically about the long term. Men understand and accept that everyone’s looks fade with time. That’s when men often emphasize personality and character over looks. However, what men have experienced is that frequently, beautiful women have lousy, arrogant, entitled, and apathetic personalities.
9. Sexual Expectations:
Pressure to move too quickly towards physical intimacy is a frequent concern.
Men often feel societal pressure from women to show that they can take care of and lead women. This often results in large expenses the man accepts on behalf of the woman. For men, this results in a transactional relationship initiated by women. So, for his part, if he pays, he expects sex.
There is also pressure among men to initiate intimacy quickly as they believe that physical chemistry is a crucial indicator of relationship potential.
10. Online Dating Etiquette:
Issues such as inappropriate messages, lack of courtesy, and misrepresenting oneself on dating profiles are common complaints in online dating.
There are good and bad men everywhere. Many men might not be aware of the impact of their actions when they feel anonymity provides a buffer.
Men prefer to be the man every woman wants, and most will do whatever is necessary to become that man. But most average men think the man every woman asks for in her dating profile is a unicorn.
But to take it one step further, the term catfishing was coined because of a woman, not a man. A woman deceived a man into believing the person presented in an online dating profile was who she was.
Catfishing refers to taking information and images, typically from other people, and using them to create a new identity for themselves.
What Modern Dating Has Become
Modern dating is a complex landscape where men and women face significant challenges and misunderstandings. Women’s complaints about men’s behaviors—such as lack of communication, emotional unavailability, ghosting, and others—highlight a disconnect that often leaves both parties feeling frustrated.
On the other hand, men provide reasons for their actions, citing societal pressures, past experiences, and misunderstandings about expectations. Both genders must foster better communication, manage expectations, and cultivate empathy to bridge this gap.
Understanding each other’s perspectives and working towards mutual respect can significantly improve the modern dating experience, leading to more fulfilling and genuine connections.
Summarize the Dating Diaspora
In conclusion, modern dating is a challenging landscape fraught with frustration for many men. The resulting discontent caused men to go solo and focus on their desires, preferences, and achievements.
The ambiguity in women’s comments, the delusions about what they desire, and their perpetual lack of awareness about what men truly want in a mate create a significant disconnect. Women’s complaints about men’s behaviors—such as lack of communication, emotional unavailability, ghosting, and more—often stem from misunderstandings and unrealistic expectations.
Men often feel exasperated by the mixed signals and the pressure to decipher what women genuinely mean versus what they say. The societal expectation for men to be mind readers and the fear of negative repercussions for honest communication add to the frustration.
Men desire clear, direct communication and mutual effort in building a relationship but often find these elements lacking.
Furthermore, women’s unrealistic and often contradictory desires can leave men feeling disillusioned. While men strive to meet these expectations, they must usually be more appreciated or understood.
The perpetual lack of awareness among women about what men truly seek in a partner—such as support, respect, and emotional stability—exacerbates the issue.
To bridge this gap, women must better understand men’s perspectives and communicate their own desires more clearly. By fostering an environment of mutual respect, honesty, and realistic expectations, men and women can work towards more fulfilling and genuine connections in the modern dating world.
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