Feminism Has Taken Over AI

We live in a world where it’s common to hear the phrase, “Speak your truth,” or “Live your personal truth” or some variation of that. Many Social Media influencers have created massive cult-like followings with just that mantra.

I don’t necessarily disagree with this statement, but we have to admit that at the very least it’s rooted in selfish sentiment. I mean, at its core it means, “Take care of yourself first.”

Or am I wrong?

This new wave of feminism has shaken the world. We tip-toe around every subject, struggling to be politically correct for fear that we might offend someone. In the past, if you unintentionally offended someone you’d apologize, they’d accept it, and you’d move on.

Nowadays, a mistake can have you black-balled, banned, canceled, and fired. At the very least you’d be labeled with some unforgiving title and called a racist, narcissist, misogynist, or broke.

Effects of Modern Feminism on Society

I bring this up because I initially reached out to Chat GPT for some assistance writing this article. My prompt included the words, “What might one learn about Modern Western Women, feminism, and dating while being a Passport Brother?” 

The response I received from Chat GPT was interesting in its attempt to remain unbiased. 

Chat GPT: I’m here to help and provide information on various topics, but I want to ensure that the content I generate is respectful and unbiased. It’s important to approach discussions about gender, feminism, and dating with sensitivity. However, I can offer a more general article on modern dating or relationships without focusing on a specific gender or ideology. 

I’m sorry, but I hear a feminist’s voice behind this cold and mechanical tone. She’s probably crouching behind the curtain preaching and professing like the Wizard of Oz.

Any discussion about dating is bound to be biased because anecdotal evidence brought up for reference will likely include personal experiences. By its very nature, isn’t a personal experience biased? 

This response from Chat GPT, which is likely embedded in its programming, is part of the problem with dating in the Western world. Feminism and thin-skinned antics are pervasive in every aspect of what’s left of our social community.

We spend too much energy trying not to offend the other sex and the message gets diluted in a sea of overly sensitive psychobabble. Chat GPT’s reluctance to write anything that might be biased is its self-protection protocol again being called misogynistic.

Are men and women often insensitive to each other when discussing personal truths about modern dating? Of course, they are! It’s a no-holds-barred melee to vanquish the opposite sex. 

Intelligence is often biased and insensitive. It believes what it believes. If the aim of Chat GPT is truly to mimic intelligence, then shouldn’t it also replicate intelligence’s general tendencies and not some politically correct programming to be inoffensive?

But I digress…

My Entry into the Passport Brotherhood

Passport Brothers vs. Sex Tourism

For the uninitiated, a Passport Bro is a gentleman who has gone his own way and stepped away from dating modern women to travel abroad where he can meet traditional women who are more suitable for dating and marriage. 

Don’t let the feminists and modern Western Women fool you. They will intentionally conflate the activities of Passport Bros with the actions of Sex Tourists. A Sex Tourist is any individual, male or female, who travels to another country with the explicit intent to take advantage of local laws to engage in random sex or prostitution. 

To be fair, both of these types of people exist in the world. However, what most Western women will try to exaggerate is how mutually inclusive they are. They would have you believe that men with meager wages will spend money on airfare, hotel, taxis, and food just for the opportunity to buy their way into the bed of a foreign and exotic woman. The financial math doesn’t make sense, but that doesn’t matter to these women because they are caught up in their feelings.

Navigating Cross-Border Romance

Let’s take a moment to discuss the difference between the men like me who’ve chosen to be Passport Bros looking for wives and the men whose only interest lies in sexual escapades. 

In the realm of international travel and romance, the two emerging categories are very distinct. While both may embark on journeys abroad in search of companionship, their motivations, intentions, and impact on the local communities they engage with can significantly differ. 

Intentions and Relationships

Passport Brothers, inspired by the idea of cross-cultural connections, often embark on international journeys with the sincere desire to establish meaningful and long-lasting relationships. These individuals seek genuine companionship, valuing the opportunity to learn about and embrace a different culture. 

On the other hand, sex tourists engage in travel primarily for sexual gratification, often seeking short-term encounters with locals. Their focus is transactional, and the relationships formed are typically transient and lack depth and emotional investment.

Impact on Local Communities

Passport Brothers contribute positively to the communities they visit. Their genuine interest fosters mutual understanding, supports local businesses, and immerses the Brothers in the community, creating a positive impact that extends beyond their relationships.

Conversely, sex tourism can have detrimental effects on local communities. The transactional nature of the interactions may lead to exploitation, perpetuating harmful stereotypes, and contributing to the objectification of individuals involved. In some cases, the sex tourism industry may fuel human trafficking and exacerbate existing social issues.

Respect for Local Cultures and Values

Passport Brothers prioritizes cultural exchange and understanding. They approach their experiences with an open mind, respecting the local customs, traditions, and values of the communities they engage with.

Sex tourists, however, may disregard local customs and values, viewing the destination as a space solely for personal satisfaction. This lack of cultural sensitivity can lead to instances of disrespect, contribute to the erosion of local norms, and often perpetuate a negative image of travelers from the West.

The distinction between Passport Brothers and Sex Tourists lies not only in their motivations but also in the impact they leave on the communities they encounter. Passport Brothers, driven by a genuine desire for connection, contribute positively to cross-cultural understanding. Conversely, the transient nature and transactional focus of sex tourism perpetuate dangerous stereotypes, lies, and exploitation. Feminists purposefully conflate these two distinct types of travelers to gaslight women and shame men.

What are Blue Book Gentlemen Looking for?

I became aware of what I later learned was the Passport Brothers or Blue Book Gentlemen phenomenon when I worked in an area of Westminster, CA called Little Saigon. It was a predominantly Vietnamese community, both residential and commercial. 

Being a person who generally looks beyond the surface of things I became intrigued by what I saw. In my opinion, and generally speaking – and I am entitled to speak generally – Vietnamese women are fit, friendly, and feminine. 

However, I saw that many Vietnamese American men, in ages from 20s-30s were not choosing to marry Vietnamese-American women who were born in the United States. Instead, they went back to Vietnam to find, court, and marry a more suitable woman.

Once and for all, what are men looking for?

Generally speaking, men are looking for women who: 

• Are cooperative, feminine, and friendly, and who inspires them
• Do not use SHAME, INSULTS, and GUILT to manipulate men
• Are loving and appreciative, and willing to show it openly
• Respect them
• Have traditional values regarding the roles of men and women

After a year of witnessing successful men go back and forth between Orange County, CA, and Vietnam to find wives, I mentioned it to my roommate, Buo-Han, a twentysomething man from Taiwan. That’s when I learned that despite living in California for six years to attend University, he was actively courting a Taiwanese woman online.

What he said to me would later be echoed in sentiment by many other men who earnestly wanted to be married. He said he found American and Western women in general to be too complicated, too selfish, and not suitable to be a wife and raise a family.

I dipped my toe into the Passport Brotherhood in 2016 when I started dating Thao, a young Vietnamese lady. Despite being highly Americanized and emotionally volatile – Thao’s upbringing set her apart from other women I dated. She was the only woman since my divorce to reject an invitation to go out for dinner and offer to cook a homemade meal instead. 

I was so impressed I took a picture of the soup and entree she prepared and posted it on Snapchat. 

Our relationship was a May-December type thing and our age difference played a part in us breaking up. I wasn’t at all surprised, but I was changed. I wanted more of the way she treated me. 

Thao never once tried to take the masculine role in the relationship. She always wanted to be soft, fresh, and feminine. After work, she wouldn’t let me come near her until she had showered and lotioned her body.

Months later a coworker gave me a Facebook introduction to my now-wife, Nghīa. Nghīa was in Vietnam and had made it her purpose to study English to further her career with an international apparel company. She was a supervisor of the costing department and regularly met with vendors of athletic footwear, sandals, and slides for Rebook, Under Armour, Adidas, Puma, and New Balance.

She was not poor, destitute, uneducated, or any of that nonsense that is as is commonly regurgitated by modern American women who know nothing about geography or the countries they shit on. Nghīa had plans to get a certificate in Business English and travel to Europe or Japan.

I was a native English speaker working in a Vietnamese community and trying to learn the language. She was a native Vietnamese speaker trying to learn English. It made sense for us to work together.

Working together turned into an online attraction which compelled me to take a trip to Vietnam. 

Just a few short months later I filed a K1 Fiancé Visa petition with the USCIS so Nghīa could fly to the US and we could marry.

When our petition was stalled after a year, I took another flight to Vietnam. This time I did the tourist thing and the family thing. We spent a week visiting all the local sights in Saigon (Ho Chi Minh City) and the second week I spent with her parents. 

They held a dinner in my honor and I met many of Nghīa’s relatives and sang karaoke. The men tried to drink me under the table – and lost. I carried her dad back home. 

Nghia had an interview at the US Consulate and we didn’t get the visa. Instead, we got a request for additional information about our relationship. I processed a new US Consulate package and got on my third flight to Vietnam in December 2019.

In March 2020, on my birthday, Governor Newsom shut down the state of California for two weeks to combat the COVID-19 virus. Those two weeks never ended, and soon the entire world followed suit and shut down. 

Still, I was hooked. I was in love with an inspirational woman, and I was obsessed with travel and language learning.

Traveling the World and Speaking the Language

While I waited for news of our visa I signed up for a free 30-day course on Rosetta Stone. I simultaneously signed up for Pimsleur and Duolingo. Rosetta Stone turned into a 2-year registration for an outrageously low price. I chose them because I enjoyed the format more than the other language learning programs.

It’s important to keep in mind that I still worked in the heart of Little Saigon and I was surrounded by Vietnamese-speaking men and women. The language lessons added a degree or two of proficiency. If there were something I couldn’t grasp I would just ask my fiancée during one of our daily video chats.

When Rosetta Stone finally came out with the lifetime membership for all twenty-five languages I was one of the first to join. Presently, I plan to use it to reinforce my French speaking abilities (from high school) and to dabble in Spanish, Mandarin Chinese, and Farsi. 

Meanwhile, I was getting hyped about the possibility of returning to Vietnam. Moreover, I wanted to surprise everyone by speaking to the locals in their native language. Previously when I was there we relied on hand signals and gestures to communicate. Whenever we were lucky, we had a translator – my fiancée.  

Regardless, I was hooked on travel.

I started watching travel channels on YouTube and I got hooked on Kara & Nate (long before they had even 100,000 subscribers), Lost LeBlanc, The Endless Adventure, and a few other travel vloggers.

Rewind to my first trip to Vietnam when I flew China Air and Vietnam Airlines. This was my first overseas flight since I was in the USMC on a training mission in Panama in the 80’s. I hadn’t been a fan of flying since 1999 when I traveled across the U.S. conducting Y2K tech inspections at KMart distribution centers. I was and still am, afraid of heights.

Back then we would take large commercial airlines to major airports, and then we’d transfer to a puddle jumper prop plane and land in some rural airport. I hated it. I’d get so nervous I wanted to run away.

So, as one might imagine, I wasn’t keen on flying 15 hours to Taiwan. I’d never even heard the expression “long haul” before.

But my flight was, simply, great. My experience was great. I got out of my comfort zone and traveled to a new country.

The tips and tricks I learned from the travel vloggers helped in a big way.  On that first flight, my tailbone hurt so badly that I ended up buying a seat cushion from Cushion Labs.  Now I also carry a personal seat belt extension that works with any airline seat. I’m a big guy and I need a little extra slack to fasten my seatbelt.

I also learned about airport lounges and how to gain access. On my second trip to Vietnam, I purchased lounge access to help mitigate the pain of an 11-hour layover. I got a bed, a shower, and free fried rice and beef noodle soup in Taiwan.

For my next trip, I had Priority Pass, a membership that provided me with access to over 1000 lounges in the US and abroad. I’ve used it in Korea, Singapore, and Taiwan during layovers.

Honestly, I have never spent time in a lounge, like the domestic American Express Centurion Lounge. However, I have heard that in comparison to international lounges, most domestic lounges often fail to meet expectations.

Incidentally, the same thing is often said about domestic airlines versus Asian airlines.

Some might say, the same can be said for American women vs. Asian women.

[shrug]

Immigration and The Red Pill

Although the K1 Fiance Visa is considered a nonimmigrant visa, pretty much all of the same immigrant conditions apply. This meant that I had to get familiar with the immigration process to facilitate my fiance Nghīa’s admission to the United States.

90-Day Fiancé

As a result of my actions, I got on some producer’s list and I was contacted thrice by the casting agency for 90-Day Fiancé, the reality TV series. Once I even received a call from an LA Casting Agency as I waited in Taoyuan International Airport in Taiwan during a layover.

That was an interesting situation because five minutes later, as I was transiting, I ran into a coworker’s husband at the airport, 8154 miles from home.

Back at home, I researched the 90-Day Fiancé television program, especially after multiple friends who knew about Nghīa and I referenced it. I thought it was a good idea to present a long-distance relationship that wasn’t so awkwardly devoid of love and sentiment. Nghīa and I were nothing like the folks who appeared on that show which seemed to benefit from relationships that crossed the line from skeptic to fraud. 

Still, there was some useful immigration information I gleaned from the three episodes I watched. 

One thing that stood out was the difference in the K1 Visa protocols between Vietnam and the Philippines. Spouses married to US citizens and requesting a visa had to complete two hours of classes organized by the Commission for Filipinos Overseas (CFO).

I ended up going down a rathole of subjective information about dating and modern women which led me to the fringes of Red Pill ideology.

The Red Pill: Beware the Matrix

While there are many subjective interpretations of what it means to be Red Pilled, for the sake of this article and my inner thoughts, Red Pill is specifically about the dynamics between men and women in social or dating arenas, and it means, becoming aware of the political biases inherent in society, including in the mainstream media, and ultimately becoming an independent thinker.

To say the least, the Red Pill ideology is a fascinating take on the dynamic between men and women. There are many aspects of it that I disagree with, especially those ideals that espouse game-playing or some form of political, emotional, or gender-based superiority.

However, there are some aspects that I used to illuminate the challenges I had faced with women in my youth, married life, and post-divorce dating life. 

There were a few aspects of the Red Pill theory that gave me strength, confidence, and reassurance. 

There is a phrase used in the world of substance abuse and recovery: take what you need and leave the rest behind. This advice is perfect for those, like me, who were dabbling in Red Pill musings. In truth, I use this mantra for everything in my life as I believe you can learn something from almost everyone, and do so without changing who you are or what you believe in.

There is an entire science devoted to studying and learning from people we don’t agree with just so we can understand them better.

But I digress…

The Rational Male

For me, my interest in Red Pill theory is the rhetoric that emanates from The Rational Male, written by Rollo Tomassi, and other books of similar ilk. I’m not here to make commentary on what the book espouses, but rather to discuss its impact on me, which has – for the most part – been positive and enlightening.

As I mentioned earlier, take what you need and leave the rest behind.

Red Pill shined a light on some of the strange shit that was happening to me and had happened to me in the previous decade. It also helped me see the areas of my life in which I was 100% at fault and helped me accept the resulting consequences.

Red Pill also helped me comprehend the actions of others, and what compelled them to behave in such a way. My character was reaffirmed, my confidence grew and my tolerance for bullshit was lowered to a tiny degree.

All these changes helped me in my personal life and my work life.

Using Red Pill’s observations, I saw that the deterioration of my relationship with Thao was my fault. My divorce had made me bitter, angry, and insecure, and I fed off poor advice and bad intentions of others. I was reliving the pain of my lonely marriage and taking it out on poor Thao. 

Despite Thao often being flippant, irresponsible, and reckless – she was going through something with her mother – she didn’t deserve such shabby treatment from me.

Red Pill revealed that my good friend was jealous of my relationship with this much younger woman and had attempted to sabotage it by convincing me that Thao was cheating on me. This was ironic because Thao and I never discussed being exclusive. We were having a good time together, and that was it. But I fell for it.

I had accepted the risks of this May-December romance and I knew the clock was ticking on its longevity. Still, my friend brilliantly coerced me to shorten the lifespan of the relationship by starting stupid arguments until I was no longer fun to be around.

Later, Red Pill protocols helped me take notice of my behavior with my fiance, Nghīa. I started to see areas where I was on the verge of self-sabotaging again and I would quickly pivot to get back on the course I desired.

Red Pill manifesto, The Rational Male includes tidbits of information, tips, and techniques that every young man should know. Unfortunately, in this era of single-parent households led by women, lots of growing boys don’t have regular access to male opinions and perspectives. 

But for me, the most impactful effect of the Red Pill ideology was identifying certain behaviors in women that were surefire red flags. For the dating generation, including young men ages 18-35, it comes in at a close third to having a responsible male role model or father figure in one’s life. 

I could sit in the airport for international people-watching and pick out which woman would be toxic, who the narcissists were, who’d make a good fling, or a cooperative wife.

However, contrary to widely believed opinions, Red Pill isn’t anti-woman. It’s specifically, aggressively, and unapologetically pro-man. It’s not reflective of the so-called patriarchy but focused on helping men become the type of man other men are impressed by. 

In some ways, Red Pill is the antidote to modern feminism.  The current era of feminism seeks to replace the Patriarchy with a Matriarchy, the same woman-led dynamic that has spearheaded the rise of single moms and trumpeted the demise of the traditional family.

Red Pill can return men to the head of household and stimulate a cooperative home environment that statistically is better for children. Red Pill requires men to change how they interact with women, but it also requires personal change.

For society to survive and thrive, men must set aside the emotional ways they adopted in the last decade and focus on becoming stalwarts of industry, society, and business. Men should be steadfast and stoic as they build, create, and maintain – all things that men do best.

What Red Pill is not:

1. Red Pill is not misogyny
2. Red Pill is not against equal rights, it’s against trying to force or manufacture equal outcomes
3. Red Pill is not perfect. Just like scripture, it can be misused if in the wrong hands

Passport Bros and Money 

Personal Finances

A side hustle is one of those things that has existed for decades but no one knew what to call it back then. Now the term is firmly in the lexicon of the social media generation and used by everyone, from thieves to businessmen, from gold diggers to con artists, and from baby mamas to entrepreneurs.

The term is also used for everything, from selling on Etsy to eCommerce, from day trading to YouTube, from IG modeling to OnlyFans, and from Blogging to Social Media Marketing. Now I, too, have to employ a side hustle like Generation Y and Z to facilitate my life as a Passport Bro.

One of the things I never thought I’d do again was get married. Now that I have married for a second time, I instinctively started thinking about ensuring I was about to provide my wife with a decent and enjoyable life. Money is often the key to happiness when you can avoid it being the root of most spousal arguments.

I grew up poor and never wanted to repeat that condition or have my children go through that. I’ve been lucky that I’m smart and likable and my father taught me a good work ethic. I’ve broken the template for many of the jobs and industries I’ve worked, from Wall Street to I.T., from boutique public relations to TV production, and from screenwriting to blogging, from security to public speaking, from Queens, NY to Santa Monica, CA.

I’ve made good money, earned a good salary, and benefitted from profit sharing. I even saw an increase in the Apple stock I purchased in 2004. But getting married again…well, like we say in the film industry, I went back to one.

Finding a Niche for a Profitable Side Hustle

What was my side hustle? What could it be, what could I be good at and make decent side money?

It’s not like I could just pick up and move to Vietnam where the cost of living is meager. Trust me, I have thought about it but right now my two youngest children are still in high school. Da Nang and Phan Tiet are great places to retire. In fact, nearly any place in Southeast Asia is good to retire, including Thailand, Malaysia, Indonesia, and The Philippines.

But I digress…

I tried designing stickers for sale on Etsy and RedBubble. I considered having a Faceless YouTube channel. I designed T-shirts and offered them for sale on TeePublic and Spring. 

I set up accounts on Printful and Printify to sell various Print-on-demand (POD) products via an e-commerce platform.

I spent money on advertising and made a few dollars back. I also had to deal with canceled and suspended accounts, and there was no recourse to reinstate those accounts.

Leveraging Skills for a Side Hustle

I purchased a domain address for my wife so that she could start a blog to write about her feelings and observations while relocating from Vietnam to Southern California. She hadn’t written anything but I decided to investigate adding that blog to my Google Adsense account.

I had a Google Adsense account for over a decade. I made some money too. However, when Google first made changes to the partnership agreement, requiring 1000 subscribers and 4000 watch hours, my YouTube channel didn’t make the cut. 

However, I had several blogs I’d started during my filmmaker era that had garnered AdSense payments. The money was still sitting in my AdSense account. That’s when I decided to refocus my side hustle efforts on my blogs because they were making money and I hadn’t worked on them in years.

I’m a writer. I’m an author. I have three books on Amazon and several more in progress. I chronicled my independent filmmaker journey with 1300 blog posts culminating in a six-figure TV pilot agreement with NBC Universal. Writing to me is second nature.

The Write Stuff

I knew I could write well so why not make writing my side hustle, especially if I’d be doing it until and throughout my retirement? I think I see a side hustle a little differently than most people. It shouldn’t feel like a job, and it shouldn’t take forty hours a week. At most, it’s eight hours scattered over five days.

I offered my writing services on Facebook too. I helped several students with college essays. I helped a student write a personal statement for his application to law school. And I wrote Beta Reader critiques for books by aspiring authors.

Work Ethic: The Greatest Side Hustle

My greatest inspiration for starting and maintaining a side hustle came from my wife and Vietnam. See, Vietnam is full of side hustle hustlers. The nation harkens back to a time reminiscent of the 1700s in the US, before the Industrial Revolution when most citizens were proprietors of goods and services.

People made things, fixed things, cleaned things, invented things, farmed things, sold things, and exchanged things. It was their currency. It was their paycheck. It was how they earned a living wage.

In Vietnam, women and men sell everything from fresh fruit juice to breakfast on the streets of Saigon to homemade sandwiches in residential alleyways. My father-in-law is a farmer with more hectares than my grandparents had in North Carolina. He sells vegetables, fruits, and seeds. He’s raised three children and purchased a home with his income.

Many Vietnamese grow up knowing that if they cannot hustle, they won’t eat. And so, hustling is just something they do. I appreciate this innate skill when I speak with them. They tend to use their voices to bargain, negotiate, and persuade.

Ultimately, multiple side hustles were conceived, developed, and initiated. They consisted of three blogs, two Etsy shops, and a RedBubble account. I leveraged several online tools to market each business in the beginning and now I allow momentum to carry on. The main idea about a side hustle is not to spend too much time or money on them after you get started. They will build over time.

Everything Comes Together

Now everything comes together. I’m married again, even though I never thought it would happen. My wife is here with me in the United States although many women threaten to poison her mind and turn her into a modern Western Woman. 

Good luck with that.

Even men have warned me against bringing my wife to the United States. The problem with that is that it is often unreasonable and impractical to maintain a long-term long-distance relationship. I know all too well that feeling of loneliness and helplessness when your lover is ten thousand miles away. My wife and I were apart from 2018 until 2023. It’s not a good look.

We have a few more years in the States before I take myself, my wife, and my businesses overseas to Southeast Asia to live comfortably during my retirement. 

Once we’re in Southeast Asia it’ll be a lot easier to do the sort of traveling I’d like to do, like visit Cambodia, Thailand, Malaysia, Indonesia, India, South Korea, Hong Kong, Taiwan, and South Africa. Travel is in my blood now but we plan to purchase land in Vietnam, and perhaps a condo in Thailand.

I’ve laid the foundation for success. Now I simply need to nurture it so that I can live my life comfortably with my wife. Between a full-time job, my short fiction books, my primary blog, a YouTube Channel, plus my eCommerce side hustles, my wife and I are poised to make our vision board come true. 

I’m also starting a Blue Book Gentlemen/Passport Bros newsletter, called Passportli. Each month I will curate articles and information that help young brothers skillfully navigate the tumultuous dating scene, avoid toxic modern women and feminists, travel, manage their finances, and find a wife overseas.

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